On the morning of George Zimmerman’s acquittal of Trayvon Martin’s murder earlier this year, with the mainstream media raising the specter of riots, blogger Jay Smooth made a prediction: ‘The fundamental danger of an acquittal is not more riots, it is more George Zimmermans.’
There were no riots. There have been more George Zimmermans."
Unfortunately, the people who are supposed to love us aren’t always able to give us the kind of love we need. Whether they are our mothers or our fathers, our grandparents or our siblings, some family, no matter how good their intentions, leave us feeling empty, invalidated, uncared for, and alone. And on the days when that pain becomes too much to bear, our work is to recognize that those people whose love we so desperately pine for are never going to be able to meet our needs. Not because they don’t care, but because they can’t change who they are.
Their scant affection isn’t a reflection on our worth. It isn’t even about us. It’s about them and their own limitations and struggles. It’s about their unique way of expressing love and the fact that it doesn’t match up with our own. And we don’t have to internalize that. What we need is to start reaching out to the right people. We need to create a family of people outside of our family. People who can meet our needs and reciprocate our love.
We need to appreciate our families for the ways in which they are able to show they care, and be accepting of the ways they can’t. We need to make peace with who they are and if necessary, we need to give ourselves permission to let go. We need to know that our worth isn’t something another person’s love can give or take away. We need to trust that with or without their affection, we are enough."
Daniell Koepke (via internal-acceptance-movement)
Wow, I definitely needed to read this quote. It’s been really hard for me to come to terms with the fact that my mom doesn’t love me. I can’t make her. I don’t know her reasons, but I know I have to let go of the idea of having a mom. I have good memories of childhood and of my mom, how she was then. It’s ok if she doesn’t love me. It hurts me more some days than others. I know I have people who DO love me.. and sometimes it’s not easy to think about that instead. It’ll never be a replacement, but I know I’m not just on my own.(via amenalcohol)
"My sister told me a soul mate is not the person
who makes you the happiest but the one
who makes you feel the most, who conducts your heart
to bang the loudest, who can drag you giggling
with forgiveness from the cellar they locked you in.
It has always been you."
"Of lovers whose bodies smell of each other, who think the same thoughts without need of speech."